It is amazing to me the different dynamics's of family relationships. How we interact with each other, our remembrance's of the past, and how we believe sincerely our recollection of the past.
Recently I had the opportunity to experience first hand what I mentioned above. Two sister's, one I know very well and the other only from the blogs I have read from her postings. Two very different people, both claiming they love one another, but in their blogs, claim the other must hate them. Very confusing really to the outsider. I, being the outsider, must then rely on observation, experience, and trust.
Selfishly I find myself asking, why should I even care, why put the time and effort into finding out the truth? I take a moment and ponder these thoughts, sometimes more than a moment, because lets face it, most of the time, don't we really just want to think about ourselves and our own problems? Be real you know we do. It is natural.
After I take the selfish moment, an inner voice, will tell me the truth. Marla, you must care, because I care.
My inner voice is the Holy Spirit, when I allow myself to listen, that is. Our Father in heaven promises us He will never leave us nor forsake us.
Any way back to the two sisters, I have something to say. Forgiveness, forgiveness, forgiveness. We don't forgive for their sake, we forgive for our sake. Both of the sisters are in the wrong in my opinion. Both of them have been very hurt, both are competing for their father's attention, using everything they can against each other, things I think should be left in the past. Forgive these things and forget them. How many times have we heard this. I know I have heard it many times, it is not easy to forget past hurts, past injuries, past failures, and past grievances. It is an ongoing healing process to forgive and then forget. I cannot honestly say I have mastered this, in fact I know I have not. As I said it is an ongoing healing process, but do it we must. WE MUST.
Don't give up on God and what I know He is doing in your lives. You two need to get together and talk, I mean really talk, tell the truth, get it all out. Your dad loves you both, with all your faults, failures, and past shames, so does our Father in heaven. You two are lucky, most people never know a fathers love.
Maybe you really will get to have a family get together as your dad would like, with everyone getting along, forgiven. Don't wait to long.
Said in love,
Marla
2 comments:
It has nothing to do with two sisters competing for a fathers love..... it has everything to do with one sister trying to protect the father from the other sister that has used him for years...... so maybe you should get your facts straight... and one more thing.. are you Kathy's alter ego... you write like her and phrase your words like her....... you must be very good friends.......
No Denise I am not Katt, or her alter ego. I am a friend of hers. Maybe it is you that needs to get things straight. Stop blaming Katt for everthing and get a grip, since it is coming from someone that it took 7 times to apparently get it right, I forgive you.
Marla
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